The majority of people who experience dating violence will tell a close friend rather than a family member or a teacher. So, it is important for you to know what to do if you suspect that someone you know is in an abusive relationship or they tell you about abuse in their relationship.
1. Do not be afraid to reach out to a friend you think may be in an abusive relationship.
2. Tell them that you are concerned for their safety and you want to help them.
3. If they tell you about abuse in their relationship, believe them. Remind them that you are there to support them.
4. Listen and be supportive. Do not judge them or give advice.
5. Acknowledge their feelings and be respectful of their decisions.
6. Avoid asking questions. Let them share whatever they are comfortable sharing with you.
7. Help your friend recognize that abuse is not normal and that it is not their fault. Everyone deserves to have a healthy relationship.
8. Focus on your friend, not on their abusive partner. Do not attempt to confront the abusive partner or tell the victim that you will confront them.
9. Encourage them to seek further help. Be prepared with information about community resources that could give them information and guidance. Offer to go with them if they would like.
10. Do not make promises. Avoid telling them, “Everything will be okay.” This statement minimizes the incidents and are things you have no control over.