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“It was the summer between 8th and 9th grade. We were make-out buddies. Sometimes he’d talk to me during the day. Other times he wouldn’t. We were in his basement late one night, getting drunk, and he kept asking me if I wanted to do it. My heart was racing and I was terrified. I kept saying: ‘maybe,’ ‘maybe,’ ‘maybe.’ Then he said: ‘No more maybes. Let’s flip a coin.’ My stomach sank. After we finished, he said: ‘I think I heard my dad upstairs. You need to leave.’ I went home and filled up a whole page in my journal. I wrote in purple sharpie, over and over: ‘It didn’t happen.’ For the longest time I felt like it was my fault for feeling hurt. Like I was being overly sensitive. It took five years for me to realize that consent is not a coin flip.”
CAWS North Dakota
525 N. 4th St. Bismarck, ND 58501
Tel - 701-255-6240
CAWS North Dakota is a nonprofit membership organization representing the 20 domestic violence and sexual assault crisis intervention centers throughout the state. It is our mission to provide leadership and support in the identification, intervention and prevention of sexual and domestic violence.